“When Will You Have Another?” { Family Planning }


Our son turned one recently, so naturally, the questioning has begun. It takes many forms, but the most commonly heard is, “Are you going to have another one soon?”

Let me be clear; we love kids, and we want more eventually, but right now the most obvious answer to us is NO! I’m having way too much fun with the one I have to think about adding another one to the mix. The best part about being healthy and having kids in your mid-20’s is that there’s no rush–none whatsoever. I never have and never will want to be the parent with two under two. Mad props to parents who take on that responsibility, but it is not the right choice for us. Of course I want my kids to get along and be best friends and enjoy doing things together, but I don’t think that means I have to rush the process in order to make it happen.

460I think the questions regarding our family planning are harmless, and I’m sure the strangers who stop me in Target to comment on how great of a big brother my one-year-old would be are well-meaning, but come on. He doesn’t want to be a big brother because 1) He doesn’t know what that means, and 2) No toddler really wants to give up being the center of attention.

When I was pregnant with our son, I threw up every day. Every. Single. Day. I am certainly in no hurry to repeat that process, and no matter how many people tell me that every pregnancy is different, if it turns out the second one is the same (or God forbid, worse!), I don’t want to go through it with a toddler who’s still very needy and frequently wants to be carried places.

I think children are beautiful and special, but they’re also a whole lot of work. And because I’m running my own business, taking care of our home, raising a one-year-old, and trying to be my own person, I’m content in this place for awhile. I look forward to expanding our family in the future, but as of right now, this is where I want to be, and no amount of questioning is going to change that.

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Katie Q
Katie is a Butler University graduate, who was lucky enough to meet her husband the third day of college. After graduating as one of Butler’s top 10 women, she went on to do Teach for America; South Carolina. She was a second grade teacher in a school with a high Hispanic population and loved every second of it. Never intending to be a stay-at-home parent, she worked until the day before she gave birth, took one look into her son’s eyes, and decided she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom after all. After re-prioritizing upon the birth of their son, Katie and her husband decided to move back to Indianapolis to be closer to family. She recently graduated with her master’s degree in education. She loves to cook, celebrate holidays, watch movies, party plan, travel the world, take walks, and play with her Border Collie. You will likely find her seeking adventure, hunting for bargains, helping others get healthy through her passion as a health coach, or cuddling on the couch with her hubby, baby, and puppy. If you’re interested in reading more about her crazy adventures, check out her personal blog, A Quinning Love.