As moms, we wear many hats—chauffeur, chef, nurse, teacher, and everything in between. While we pour so much of ourselves into our families, it’s easy to put our own interests on the back burner. But finding a hobby isn’t just about having something to do in our “free time” (if that even exists); it’s about rediscovering ourselves outside of motherhood. Here’s how I found a hobby—and how you can find yours, too.
Why Finding a Hobby Matters
When I became a mom, my world revolved around my kids. Every decision I made centered on their needs, routines, and milestones. While I wouldn’t trade those moments for anything, I realized I was losing a bit of myself in the process. Hobbies aren’t just about having fun—they’re a way to:
- Recharge and reduce stress
- Foster creativity and problem-solving skills
- Set an example for our kids that self-care is important
- Build connections with others outside of your usual circles
Research shows that having a hobby is highly linked to good mental health and well-being.
My Journey to Finding a Hobby
After my children were born, helpful family members would arrive to my house and suggest I take some time for myself while they graciously watched my baby. “Go do something for you! We’re good here,” they’d tell me. My husband would encourage me to “go somewhere fun” while he stayed with the kids. As much as I appreciated the offer, the reality was I would’ve preferred to just stay home and watch Netflix on the couch. I didn’t really have hobbies. I was consumed with exhaustion and decision fatigue – even deciding what to do and where to go felt like too much to think about. It usually resulted in a quick lap around Target or Costco, but even that got old.
For a long time, I told myself I didn’t have the time, energy, or even the right to carve out something just for me. Then I realized being a better mom also meant being a happier, more fulfilled person.
I decided to dedicate an entire year to finding a hobby. It was my only New Year’s resolution in 2024. I tried many things throughout the year: I went to a hot yoga studio during the early cold months. I read books. I started writing for fun. I joined a bunco group for a few months. I picked up weightlifting and running. Six months into my running journey, I ran my first half marathon.
Some hobbies stuck, and others fell off. I wasn’t always consistent and didn’t master any of them, but I learned to be okay with that. I kept trying new things, and it gave me something to look forward to and put on my calendar.
How to Find Your Mom Hobby
If you’re not sure where to start, here are a few tips:
- Think About What You Loved Pre-Kids Did you love writing or playing a sport before motherhood? Try revisiting those old passions. You might be surprised how much you’ve missed them.
- Experiment Without Pressure You don’t need to find the one right away. Try a free yoga class, order a craft kit on Amazon, or attend a local workshop. There’s no rule saying you have to stick with something forever.
- Look for Social Opportunities Joining a book club, running group, or bilingual playgroup can make a hobby feel less isolating. Plus, you’ll meet other moms who understand the balancing act.
- Embrace the Season You’re In Some hobbies are more practical depending on your kids’ ages and stages. I have more flexibility now that my children are toddlers.
It’s Not Selfish—It’s Necessary
Finding a hobby has reminded me that I’m not just “Mom.” I’m also a person with goals, interests, and talents. And in rediscovering that part of myself, I’ve found more joy, patience, and energy to bring back to my family. So, if you’re reading this and feel like there’s no time, no space, or no you left to give—take this as your sign. You deserve a hobby, and it’s never too late to start.
