Menopause impacts 33% of our lives. That’s right, 33% of your lifetime, you will likely be in some phase of menopause! My doctor recently put it to me less delicately. Upon coming in to discuss what I could do to remedy the symptoms of hormone decline, she basically said, “Nothing! Get used to it because this will continue for another 14 years.”
Though frustrating, her response is not surprising. I’ve already switched doctors twice due to some version of this attitude. As it turns out, the burden is on us and healthcare consumers, given that only 31% of physicians cover menopause during their residency. Menopause remains one of the least discussed topics. For most of us, it still carries a stigma of being a phase fraught with discomfort and decline. The truth is, while menopause brings undeniable challenges, I’m working to redefine this phase as one of empowerment and self-discovery.
Acknowledging the Challenges
I am a “both and” person through and through. Acknowledging the good with the bad is an aspirational journey. I’ve faced nearly all 34 symptoms associated with the rapid decline of my hormones–weight gain, brain fog, night sweats, vertigo, decreased muscle mass, joint pain, constant ringing in my ears; the list goes on and on. These changes can be unsettling and frustrating, to say the least. However, acknowledging them is the first step toward finding ways to manage them.
How I got here
My own journey to menopause wasn’t straightforward. I struggled with terrible periods starting in fourth grade at the age of nine. Throughout my life, I underwent multiple operations to manage the pain and discomfort. I had tumors removed, took medication for bleeding disorders to manage the excessive blood loss, and participated in experimental medical trials. The most difficult moment came when a failed pregnancy led to an emergency hysterectomy at the age of 39. This sudden shift thrust me into menopause earlier than I had anticipated, forcing me to confront the realities of this life stage head-on.
Embracing the Benefits
Despite the challenges, I’ve come to realize that menopause offers unexpected benefits. It can be a time of significant personal growth and empowerment. Here are some of the positive aspects I’m embracing:
- Freedom from Menstrual Cycles
One of the most liberating aspects of menopause is the end of menstrual cycles. No more monthly discomfort, no more planning life around a predictably debilitating cycle. For the first time in my life, I’m not underweight, have a normal body temperature, and am not anemic. I’m almost never cold! This newfound freedom is something to celebrate, opening up possibilities for a more active and unencumbered lifestyle. Going on a beach vacation with no threat of this interference is life-giving, and I’m not even exaggerating!
2. Rediscovery of Strength
Menopause has encouraged me to rediscover my physical strength. With the right approach to fitness and nutrition, it’s possible to maintain and even build muscle mass. Strength training has become a crucial part of my routine, helping me feel strong, capable, and grounded. I lift two to three times a week, and it’s improved much more than my strength. It’s increased my mobility and confidence, bone density, and even decreased my pain.
3. A New Body
I’m definitely far from comfortable with all of the changes. However, for the first time in my life I fill out, and sometimes spill out, of clothes. I’m working to recognize this new me and celebrate all of the gifts it brings. My wardrobe is being reorganized to highlight my newfound features. Bring on the V-necks!
4. Increased Self-Awareness
Menopause has made me more attuned to my body and its needs. I’ve learned to listen to what my body is telling me and respond with compassion, care, and greater patience. This heightened self-awareness is helping me make more informed choices about my health and well-being.
A Final Note of Encouragement
To anyone navigating the complexities of menopause, it absolutely comes with challenges, and it creates opportunities to redefine yourself, reconnect with your body, and embrace your strength and vitality.
Let’s start conversations, share our stories, and support one another through this significant and enduring phase of life. Together, we can change the narrative around menopause, viewing it not as an ending but a powerful new beginning.
What has surprised you in this phase? What resources are you digging?
Share your story and questions. We are all in this together!